The Best Advice You’ve Ever Received

When I got married I was given this advise the day before my wedding, and even tho that relationship did not work out I still live by it today. Do Not Go To Bed Mad or Arguing. Sometimes if you are mad and arguing then you both need a min to breath and think. That does not mean go to bed. I do have a tendency to try to fix the issue without giving my partner that breathing and thinking room and I need to learn things settle down faster if I give him that space. That being said I can't and won't go to sleep until we are in a good spot. Depending on the argument this may not save a marriage or relationship. You may need to settle to agree to disagree, but you both will sleep better and your health will be better for it. It truly does not matter how early you need to wake the following morning. If you go to bed upset your blood pressure will be up, you won't sleep as well and chances are fairly good you will be just upset in the morning.Then your day starts off stressed and you have no idea how or what your partner is thinking or feeling. So do yourself and your partner a favor and step back, think, calm and find a resolution even if its a temporary. I have decided to add some benefits, potential drawbacks, and options from our Uncle Google.

Benefits

Emotional safety: Not going to bed angry can help you feel emotionally safe and practice reciprocity.

Stress reduction: Not going to bed angry can decrease your stress and cortisol levels.

Prioritize emotional regulation: Instead of shaming yourself, you can prioritize emotional regulation.I would love to hear your thoughts on this advise or hear any that you may live by in your life.

Potential drawbacks

Frustration: This advice can sometimes leave one partner feeling frustrated.

Avoidant tactic: You might not have time to have a productive conversation before bed.

What to do instead

Set a time to resume the conversation: If you can't resolve the conflict right away, you can set a time to pick it back up later.

Remind your partner of your love: You can remind your partner that you love them and that you're on the same team.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this advise or any other advise that you has meant a lot to you.